Why The Story Of John And Lorena Bobbitt Is More Complex Than Just Castration

Published January 11, 2022
Updated April 20, 2023

After suffering years of emotional and physical abuse from her husband, Lorena Bobbitt cut off John Wayne Bobbitt's penis on June 23, 1993. But there's much more to this story than meets the eye.

In the early morning hours of June 23, 1993, 24-year-old Lorena Bobbitt picked up a kitchen knife, walked into the bedroom where her husband John was sleeping, and cut off his penis.

Then, she took the severed appendage and fled into the night. By the time the sun rose the next morning, what Lorena had done to John had begun to spread, first among the police officers who searched for his penis in a field, then by the surgeons who reattached it, and then by the national media.

Men across the country winced in sympathy. Late-night comedians made endless jokes. And in the trial that captivated the nation, Lorena was cast as a hot-tempered Latina enraged by her husband’s inability to satisfy her.

Lorena Bobbitt Trial

Jeffrey Markowitz/Getty ImagesAt her trial, Lorena Bobbitt demonstrates the abuse she claimed to have experienced at John Bobbitt’s hands.

The truth, however, was more complex. Lorena Bobbitt’s story is less about her husband’s severed penis and more about the toxicity of her marriage, the cruel cycle of domestic abuse, and the shards of her American Dream.

Chasing The American Dream

Born in 1969 in Bucay, Ecuador, Lorena Bobbitt (née Gallo) grew up in Caracas, where she enjoyed a normal and happy childhood as the eldest of three children. When she was 15, her life changed after her parents gifted her a trip to the United States for her quinceañera.

“I feel like, oh, wow, this is like another planet, another place,” Lorena told Vanity Fair. “I said to myself, ‘Oh my God, this is the place I want to be.'”

At first, Lorena’s entire family tried to emigrate to the United States together. When that proved impossible, Lorena went alone, attaining a student visa and enrolling at Northern Virginia Community College in 1987. Along the way, she took English classes, worked as a manicurist, and made friends.

Then, in 1988, Lorena met John Bobbitt.

John And Lorena Bobbit’s Doomed Romance

John And Lorena Bobbit Wedding

YouTubeJohn and Lorena Bobbitt at their wedding, before their relationship turned sour.

At a club for enlisted men near Quantico Marine base, John and Lorena Bobbitt locked eyes for the first time. Long after their relationship had soured, both admitted that their initial attraction was powerful. John spotted Lorena across the room and, to her delight, asked her to dance.

“I thought John was very handsome,” she recalled to Vanity Fair. “Blue eyes. A man in a uniform, you know? He was almost like a symbol — a Marine, fighting for the country. I believed in this beautiful country. I was swept off my feet. I wanted my American Dream.”

After a whirlwind romance, Lorena and John married on June 18, 1989. But Lorena’s “American Dream” quickly became a nightmare. When they had sex for the first time, John was “rough.” He frequently made decisions without consulting Lorena. And just months after they wed, John started hitting her.

Biography writes that John beat her, raped her, and even forced her to get an abortion when she got pregnant. As Lorena waited to have to procedure done, he also bullied her, telling her that having an abortion could kill her.

Lorena Bobbitt With John

TwitterLorena Bobbitt “was going to do anything to try to make her marriage work” according to one of her friends.

Meanwhile, John bounced from job to job, creating financial stress which Lorena says led her to embezzle $7,200 from her employer. “She was the meal ticket and the punching bag,” her lawyer later told Vanity Fair. A friend of Lorena’s agreed, telling ABC News in 1993 that Lorena “was going to do anything to try to make her marriage work.”

As time went on, their relationship remained volatile. The couple split in October 1991, only to reunite a year later. And less than a year after that, Lorena Bobbitt would become a household name when she cut off John’s penis. So what exactly happened on June 23, 1993?

When Lorena Bobbitt Cut Off Her Husband’s Penis

As Lorena Bobbitt tells it, the early morning of June 23 unfolded much like many others in her marriage. She and John had agreed to separate again but were still living together. And when John came home after a night of drinking he barged into their bedroom, where Lorena was sleeping, and raped her.

John Bobbitt Trial

POOL/AFP/Getty ImagesJohn Bobbitt points during testimony on the sixth day of his wife Lorena Bobbitt’s malicious wounding trial. January 19, 1994.

“The next thing I remember, he was on top of me,” Lorena, who was then 95 pounds, told Vanity Fair. “I said, ‘No, get off of me. I don’t want to have sex.’ And he wouldn’t get off of me… And he’s heavy. I couldn’t breathe, I couldn’t scream… I couldn’t even move.”

When the assault was over, Lorena went to their kitchen to get a glass of water. And something seemed to snap inside of her.

“I was thinking many things,” she recalled. “I was thinking the first time he hit me. I was thinking when he raped me. I was thinking so many things, just really quick. I don’t know… I just wanted him to disappear. I just wanted him to leave me alone, to leave my life alone. I don’t want to see him anymore.”

A kitchen knife on the counter caught her eye. She picked it up, went back to the bedroom, and cut off her sleeping husband’s penis.

As John stumbled out of bed, terrified and bleeding profusely, Lorena fled in her 1991 Mercury Capri, still clutching her husband’s severed appendage. She told ABC News that she didn’t even realize that she was holding it at first.

“I remember I couldn’t make a turn because my hands [had] something on them, and so I tried to turn but then I saw that I have it in my hand,” Lorena explained. “I looked at it and I scream, and… I throw it out of the window. I just drive it as fast as I could.”

Lorena Bobbit S Knife

TwitterThe knife Lorena Bobbitt used to cut off her husband’s penis.

Lorena went to a friend’s house, who called the police. As John rushed to the hospital, she told officers where they could find his penis, in a grassy field opposite a 7-Eleven. According to The New York Times, they quickly located it, put it on ice, and stored it in a Big Bite hot dog box.

Incredibly, doctors were able to reattach the appendage after a nine-and-a-half-hour surgery. Soon afterward, both John and Lorena Bobbitt became household names as Lorena’s trial captivated the nation.

The Scandalous Trial That Captivated The Nation

John Lorena Bobbitt Trial

POOL/AFP/Getty ImagesJohn Bobbitt and Lorena Bobbitt during the second day of her trial

In the aftermath, both Lorena Bobbitt and John Bobbitt were arrested. Lorena was charged with malicious wounding; John faced charges of marital sexual assault. Many media organizations, however, including Ladies’ Home Journal questioned whether “marital rape” was an oxymoron.

There were no cameras allowed at John’s trial, and he was acquitted in November 1993. But, as ABC News reports, Lorena Bobbitt’s trial became a media circus. CNN provided wall-to-wall coverage, and her case prompted comment from the likes of David Letterman (who included Lorena in a Top 10 List) and Howard Stern, who defended John and declared: “I don’t even buy that he was raping her. She’s not that great looking.”

Many media organizations also clung to a statement that Lorena had made to police shortly after her arrest, when she said: “He always have orgasm and he doesn’t wait for me to have an orgasm. He’s selfish. I don’t think it’s fair so I pull back the sheets and then I did it.”

Lorena was trying to explain the long-term abuse that she’d suffered at John’s hands. At her trial, multiple witnesses testified that they’d seen bruises on Lorena inflicted by John, and that they’d witnessed him abusing his wife. But her “orgasm” quote convinced many commentators that she’d attacked her husband out sexual dissatisfaction. And John, for his part, claimed that Lorena attacked because he was leaving her.

Lorena Bobbitt Testimony

Jeffery Markowitz/Getty ImagesLorena Bobbitt during her testimony.

“If she couldn’t have me, no one could,” he later told Vanity Fair. “And there was the green card, too. That didn’t come to my mind at the time, but it’s obvious. You have to be married to an American citizen for five years to get one, and we’d only been married for four.”

In the end, Lorena was found not guilty by temporary insanity and ordered to spend five weeks at a mental hospital. By 1995, she and John officially divorced and went their separate ways. Indeed, the two would follow radically different paths.

Where Are John And Lorena Bobbitt Today?

Lorena Bobbitt Today

YouTubeLorena Bobbitt, once a figure of mockery, has been reevaluated in the post #MeToo era.

After her trial, Lorena Bobbitt was eager to retreat from the spotlight. She became Lorena Gallo again, successfully became an American citizen, and focused on rebuilding her life. When Playboy offered her $1 million to pose for the magazine, she turned them down.

“A million dollars is a million dollars,” she told The New York Times. “It would’ve been amazing. But I wasn’t raised that way.”

Instead, Bobbitt reenrolled in school, remarried, and had a daughter with her new husband. In 2007, she created a foundation to help victims of domestic abuse, Lorena’s Red Wagon.

John Bobbitt, however, took a different path.

John Bobbitt Promo

David Rentas/New York Post Archives/Getty ImagesJohn Wayne Bobbitt, center, with co-actresses, Veronica Brazil, left, who played Lorena Bobbitt, Tiffany Lords, right, and Letha Weapons, center, promoting Uncut. September 23, 1994.

After moving to Las Vegas, he — and his infamous penis — starred in several porn films, with titles like Frankenpenis. John also rotated through multiple girlfriends, many of whom later accused him of domestic violence. All the while, he seemed fixated on his ex-wife. According to The New York Times, he continued to write Lorena letters as late as 2019.

But Lorena, for her part, has moved on. Looking back at what happened in 1993, she’s concluded that most people focused on all the wrong things. Caught in the can’t-miss-nature of her televised trial, they largely ignored the abuse and violence that she’d suffered at the hands of her husband.

“The media was focusing only on the penis, the sensationalistic, the scandalous,” she told Vanity Fair. “But I wanted to shine the light on this issue of spousal abuse… I am not a celebrity, I am an advocate.”

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Kaleena Fraga
A staff writer for All That's Interesting, Kaleena Fraga has also had her work featured in The Washington Post and Gastro Obscura, and she published a book on the Seattle food scene for the Eat Like A Local series. She graduated from Oberlin College, where she earned a double degree in American History and French.